Some president's have elected to call, all president's I believe have elected to send letters. If you elect to call a family like this, it is about the most difficult thing you could imagine. There's no perfect way to make that phone call. When I took this job and talked to President Trump about how to do it, my first recommendation was, he not do it.
Because it's not the phone call that parents, family members are looking forward to. He asked me about previous presidents. And I said I can tell you that President Obama, who was my Commander in Chief when I was on active duty, did not call my family. That was a not a criticism, that was just to simply say I don't believe President Obama called.
That's not a negative thing. I was stunned when I came to work yesterday morning, and brokenhearted at what I saw a member of Congress doing. A member of Congress who listened in on a phone call from the President of the United States to a young wife. And in his way tried to express that opinion there's a brave man, a fallen hero.
He knew what he was getting himself into because he enlisted, there was no reason to enlist, he enlisted. He was exactly where he wanted to be with exactly the people he wanted to be with when his life was taken. That was the message, that was the message that was transmitted.
It stuns me that a member of Congress would have listened in on that conversation, absolutely stuns me. And I thought at least that was sacred.